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A phone call, according to experts can reveal a lot about a person. It gives insights into a person's character as well as social skills.
Several online sites have what is known as "Private call" phone services -this allows men and women to speak to each other without exchanging their personal numbers. If a person is not reachable, the system repeatedly dials until both parties are connected. The "anonymous" phone call services give "daters" a chance to see if there is chemistry without risking safety. Such serves are simple to use: · A dater can set their availability then click select on profiles they want to talk to.
· The other person has the right to OK the call or refuse it.
· If the man accepts the call then the system handles the calling with proactive.
· The party who invites is billed for the call. Chat on the phone as many times as you feel the need. Listen attentively, what do you hear in the background-pets, children, silence, traffic noises? Often noises can verify what a person has told you. It is safe not to use your personal phone until you are sure the man is dependable. Remember to block caller ID -this prevents disclosure of the number you are calling from. If the number you are calling is an 800 # number then your phone number will appear on the man's phone bill. Take the trouble to call directory assistance and ensure that your date's number matches the information he gave. Directory assistance will also tell you if X has an unlisted number. Call when least expected -gauge the reaction, it is delight/surprise, or does he show irritation, does another female answer the phone. Without becoming a nuisance try and find out if Mr. X has something to hide. Listen attentively-notice any inconsistencies or odd behaviors. Look out for evasive or changing answers to the same question. Listen with you heart trust yourself-if you find anything uncomfortable or something is niggling walk away before you are hurt. Master the art of asking questions-find out where he was born and grew up, where he works, does he participate in community activities. Does he have siblings /pets? What are his leisure activities? Don't shoot questions at him but weave them into seemingly harmless conversation. If you are shy and become tongue tied when actually speaking to a person, here is what you should do -well before you answer the phone or dial his number jot down for your ready reference a few points to guide you along the way. Easy conversation topics are the weather, work experiences, movies, celebrity news, and so on. Avoid topics that can create a controversy. Never ring up a possible date when he is at work and leave a vague message on the phone-gather up courage and speak to the man , after all he is among those you have chosen to start a possible relationship with. Before calling, read through the man's profile as well as the mails you have exchanged-they will give you insights on what to speak about. Then, make notes of interesting points that can be woven into the conversation. Think what has happened in the last week that is "news?" Use discoveries, mysteries, new movies, and plays as well as best sellers as conversation pieces and highlight using a fluorescent marker which ones you plan to use. Similarly write down a few points about yourself-just like cue cards at a play-to help you make the conversation flow smoothly. One can speak about funny things that happened at work. Great conversation can be woven around: blooms in your garden, happenings at work, a trip you took or want to take, sports, book releases, exhibitions and so on. If gourmet cooking is a common interest then there is nothing like "food and wine" to find common tastes and oodles to talk about. You could paint word pictures of a typical day; speak about the kids if you have them. Share your aspirations/dreams. Be candid. Before ending the call decide, would I like to speak to this man again if yes then suggest, "Hi I have to go now but we could talk again on Friday-how about that!" Telephone etiquette demands: · The ideal time to call is early evening -not before 6.00 pm and not after 9.00pm. · Never call from a car, while stuck in traffic, or from a crowded bar or office. · Find a quite peaceful place to make your call from. Be sure you are relaxed and in the right mood. · The call should not be too long or short-if it is too long one can run out of things to say and too short is rude. · Strike a balance, make general conversation and discover each other. If you enjoy the chat then make arrangements to talk again. · Use the right kind of voice-clear your throat before speaking, don't speak too fast or slow, put emotion into the tones. · Let not the voice come through as business-like or clipped. · Speak slowly; try not to be nervous, as this will become evident in your voice. Voices convey as much as body language does--- convey happiness and enthusiasm not fear and doubts. Best Dating Around the World |